Midnight Rants

​”Kasalanan mo yan. It wouldn’t happen to you if you just chose to shut up. Don’t make it biggie.”

“You should’ve wear tees and pants instead of that girly outfit of yours para hindi ka mabastos. Kasalanan mo din pag narape ka.”

“Maybe you were just imagining things. Baka naman akala mo lang nahipuan ka? Pagod ka lang and the like.”

“Sus. Cat-calling LANG yun.”

“It was mainly your fault. Di ka lumaban.”

“It was your fault. Nanahimik ka lang.”

People are so fond of blame-shifting/victim-blaming. You were the aggrieved party but it was the culprit that they will protect, you were the victim but it was the oppressor that they will sympathize. We are living in the era of fabricated stories, liars, hiding-the-truth-dramas, what-they-see-is-what-it-is thinking. You are the right one if you have the money and the power but those who have been treated unjustly are the wrong ones. And sometimes, it was like this; if the suspect looks “kawawa” and the victim looks “mayaman, arogante o mataray” then they will glorify the suspect and throw shades at the victim. People love to believe stories without further knowledge of how it started to how it ended. People love to conclude. People love to tell others such words like “kasalanan mo yan kasi ganito ka, kasi ganyan ka and the like”. That’s why some people are just choosing to stay silent even though they feel so much pain, they’re so afraid that people will blame them instead of helping them, that others will push them down instead of pulling them out from that pit black hole full of darkness and sadness. People love to blame others. The thing is, being realistic is different from slapping others with wrong words. You never know you might be one of the reason why someone will end her/his life. You never know that you might be the last reason he/she is holding on to help him/her go on. Instead of blaming them why can’t we just listen? This is also applicable to our daily lives;

“Failed ka sa exam? Kasalanan mo yan.”

“Di ka nakagraduate? Then you’re dumb.”

“It was your fault. Dapat di ka na lang nag *insert course here*. Di mo naman pala kaya.”

“Kaya wala kang trabaho eh. Di ka nakapagtapos.”

Just because you didn’t see it the way you want it doesn’t make it any less true. Or just because you didn’t see someone striving and trying doesn’t mean they actually didn’t. We just simply don’t know what others are going through. Words are so powerful. Try to shut your mouth for a short while and open your ears to each sides of the story. That won’t cause you any harm—harm that you may cause to others if you don’t change the thin connectivity of your mouth to your mind.

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